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There’s this woman, Leena, who feels like a friend to me. I have never met her, nor have I spoken to her before. But I have been watching her YouTube videos for a long time now and they always give me something to think about or reason to be inspired. Her latest one dealt with the issue of girls and sport; how we all sort-of gave up on P.E. as the teen age hit us, and how that was a very normal thing to do for all of us. What Leena said truly resonated with me – so I thought I would share.

P.E. was hard for me. I was a shy kid, and I was very, very afraid of other people judging me. Now that’s a normal fear for a normal kid, yes. But that fear held me back from realizing my potential because I kept telling myself and others that I sucked at whatever it was we would have to do. I never had that go-getter mentality of the confident girl that just ‘gives it a go’ and has fun in the process. I hated being watched and measured up against the other girls, because in my opinion, I would always be less than. It felt like torture to be reminded in such a cruelly physical way that I was not adequate.

Even though high school is behind me now, I still feel remnants of those feelings of inadequacy when it comes to sport. Although I have mustered up more of a go-getter mentality than ever before, I am still very self-conscious when I share my workout routine with others. I feel the need to put myself down before they get the chance; “yeah but I use very light weights”, “I am so weak, look at me!”, “I can only run for like 3 minutes so…”.

I lower other people’s expectations of my performance so they don’t make fun of me… because apparently I am convinced that they would.

It’s not all bad, though. I’m learning! And I am challenging myself to a… 7k obstacle run. That’s right – me! This quiet, petite me who always hated running is going to kick some ass at the Strong Viking run in a few months’ time. Yes I will. This time around, I am training with a friend. We’re a team. We’re going to have fun being active together, helping each other out. Fuck perfect, fuck ladylike. I want fun and I want challenging. And most of all, I am going to let myself have that.

Leena’s video:

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… and live a little.

I haven’t had the headspace to write much recently, so instead I have been focusing on doing things. I have listened to more music, seen my friends more, gone to the gym, attended extra lectures and conferences, taken day trips… Less thinking, more doing. And for someone like me, that is great practice.

Sometimes you just gotta pull the trigger. You’re not being crazy for going after the things you want. You are actually doing yourself a favour, holding yourself accountable for your own needs and aspirations. Makin’ it happen. There is no time to waste second-guessing yourself. I wish someone could tell me that everyday. Hey, maybe I’ll set an alarm as a daily reminder. There is just no point keeping yourself down. Because if you don’t challenge yourself and kick your own ass out of that slump you’ve been lurking in, who will? Fairy godmothers only appear for those that earn their help. There is no better time to live the life you want to live than right now. Yesterday’s gone and tomorrow doesn’t exist. (See what I did there?).

You have to be the joy you want to feel in your life.

Bottom line is: trust it. Whatever it is, trust what you want, or think you want, or think you might want. Just go for it and see what happens. Get that crazy haircut, apply for that job, tell that person you like them and just get that damned tattoo (but be sure you really want it because that’s forever). Do more things. No – do more things you like doing. Get a blog if you must (and share it in the comments). But whatever you do, don’t let things pass you by because the timing ‘isn’t right’ or because you are ‘not ready yet’ or ‘too busy’ procrastinating.

I’m going to go ahead and heed the words of Nike: just do it.

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I click on the playlist. It’s time to dance. I bump up the volume until it can’t get any louder – then I lower it a bit, because you know, I have roommates. But the first beat takes me on its back and we go for a ride.

Nothing makes me feel quite as good as dancing. I dance when I’m happy, when I’m sad, when I’m tired, when I’m energised, even when I hear the clicking of a random girl’s heels in the hallway. I dance alone in my room, I dance on my way to class, I dance in the car, I dance anywhere.

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Dancing used to be a serious practice for me. I would go to the studio three times a week, my hair pinned back in a tight bun, and work tirelessly for hours with my pointe shoes on. I loved it; it was like a second home. Everything else disappeared when I went to dance class. It was only me and the music. Nowadays, even though I don’t get to practice ballet anymore, I still feel that way about dancing. It’s the most freeing expression of happiness I have found. The ultimate expression of love for yourself – for your life. Even if you’re only tapping your fingers to the beat while working at your desk, you’re dancing. If it brings even a smidge of a smile to your face, congratulations: you’ve found the perfect soundtrack to your current mood. For me, it always changes; electro swing, folk, rock, pop, a mix of all the above… Embrace aaaall the music!

I never understood the people that say they can’t dance. You don’t learn to dance. You just follow what moves your body feels like throwing. Who cares if you’re a so-called bad dancer? At least you’re dancing! And that’s more than that guy can say, the one standing awkwardly with a drink in his hand, not daring to move away from the wall.

It’s easy, really. Just choose to make your life a freakin’ party.

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Adventures are not just for jedis and hobbits. They aren’t contained solely within the pages of a novel or the frames of a movie. Adventures are for whomever pays attention – and has a little courage. You don’t even need to have outstanding life experiences to grow into the hero or heroine of your own story – chances are, you can make the right choices every day.

In his book The Hero with a Thousand Faces, Joseph Campbell analysed how the myths of humankind – regardless of culture or time period – usually work around the same structure: the hero’s journey. From Jesus to Luke Skywalker, our stories always end up resembling each other… whether we are aware of it or not.

Let’s think about this for a minute.

The founding myths of humanity, all based on the same plot.

First, there’s the call to adventure (“Yer a wizard, Harry.”), then its refusal (“But I’m… just Harry.”). The hero crosses the threshold (the barrier to platform 9 3/4) and faces trials and tribulations (Wingardium Levi-oooo-sa, a troll, a chess game and a big bad wolf at the end). Temptation leads the hero to the abandonment of their ego (“Give me the Sorcerer’s stone, I’ll bring your dead parents back”, “I’m okay thanks.”). Finally, the transformed hero returns home with his newfound wisdom and skills (“You could threaten to give your cousin Dudley a pair of ears to go with his tail.”).

This cycle goes on and on across stories.

  • So why do I claim that we can all be our own hero? What does that have to do with narrative structures?

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Oh, just about everything.

These stories resonate with us for a reason. We live them all the time.

We, my friend, are living stories.

We make the choices and the mistakes of the characters we love – or rather, they echo our choices and mistakes. It doesn’t matter which comes first. But it is important to recognise that where our own narrative takes us is ultimately down to ourselves. We were each given a different origin story and a singular set of hardships to overcome.

It is up to us to learn to recognise our allies and mentors; to accept the call to adventure when we are given the chance; to fail until we succeed and come out a better person. It is up to us to keep up the courage to go through that cycle every day, every month, every year. If you accept to be your own story’s hero, then you get to decide what meaning to give to life. (Damn!)

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There is something oddly comforting about technology. With it, I feel organized and involved in the world and its changing moods. Without it, I have to admit that I can feel a little lost… until I feel better. And I know I am not the only one.
I may love the Internet and all that allows me to use it, but I haven’t had the best of luck with technology for the past few months. My old phone died and so did other, borrowed ones; new phones I bought online wouldn’t turn on; my brand new mp3 player (yeah, I still use one of those) wouldn’t let me turn the volume down; and to cap it all, my trusty laptop stopped working altogether. Since then I have considered myself a bit of an expert on how to live a happy-ish, technology-modest life. And before you run away screaming: you don’t need to get all your devices to break like mine did in order to be a little bit more present in everyday life.

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Yesterday the new Pottermore website (an official all-things-Harry-Potter website) re-launched its new and improved interactive platform where users get sorted into one of the four Hogwarts houses: Gryffindor, Slytherin, Ravenclaw or Hufflepuff. Naturally, I’d had a Pottermore account for years and knew that I was a Ravenclaw. But I took the test again – partly to make sure that I was indeed a true Ravenclaw, and partly because I love the beautiful illustrations that go with anything to do with Pottermore. Plus, who doesn’t like a good quiz?

I took the quiz, fairly confident I would get sorted into Ravenclaw again, when this happened.

Hold your hippogriffs – I’m a what?

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A Gryffindor. I am now a Gryffindor. What is this dark magic?

Obviously, this surprise got me asking a handful of tough questions. Have I not been a true Ravenclaw all this time? Is the test faulty? Have I changed this much since 2009? Am I not smart and creative enough anymore?

This identity crisis echoed the one I had almost 7 years ago, when the website first launched and sorted me into Ravenclaw House. I’ll be honest: I was disappointed. Ravenclaw seemed a little too brainy for my taste; I didn’t like how all the adjectives used to describe its students revolved around their intellect. I felt like I was more than just smart; I wanted the test to tell me I was brave. I wanted it to tell me I was cool. 

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The ticking clock on the wall reminds me that it is past midnight. I had better hurry up and finish cleaning up the kitchen if I want to get up early tomorrow. Not that I have much cleaning to do, since mum has already taken care of most of it as soon as the party was over. She has this way of doing things quicker than I can process them, even after an entire evening spent managing guests and layering dish after dish on the table. I shake my head as if to get rid of the bits of sleep making their way to my brain and eyes. Must keep active, and give a little help for once.

The cat waits behind me as I wipe the counter, purring gently to herself. She wants some cuddles. The house is dark and quiet now – a stark contrast with the bubbling atmosphere of a few minutes ago. At times there was laughter, and later what sounded like grave conversations in the living room. I didn’t take part in it – apart from a polite appearance to say hello and entertain for a short while. But it is not my place.

All that remains of the party is a lingering smile on mum’s face as she kisses me goodnight, and the leftover pistachios to throw away. The evening feels strangely suspended in time, like one big timeless moment that has simply moved on from us.

Finally, after a last squeeze, I put the sponge down and turn around. The cat is gone.

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My grandmother has always been fascinated by travel, though she didn’t get to do a lot of it in her youth. To her, nothing is more moving than the view of wide, untamed lands. The very first glimpse of a new place from her seat on the plane is something that sticks in her memory forever, never losing its magic and grandeur. She remembers each time she landed somewhere new; what it felt and looked like; the things she thought to be strange… down to every peculiar sight. I admire how her sense of wonder won’t wear out. She still recounts the stories of her travels whenever I see her. She’ll tell me about the blue plastic bag she had to wear at Niagara Falls and about the snake on the road in Guyana. It brings a rare twinkle in her eyes, one that replaces – for a moment – the pains of her age.

I wish to be more like her. I have probably already travelled about as much as she has but I don’t feel like I treat those experiences with as much reverence as I should. Travelling is almost a given for my generation and things don’t strike me as exceedingly different from home. Perhaps I am easily adaptable; perhaps the places I know in the world are blending together. But maybe I just don’t pay enough attention. I wish to be old and marvelling – not blasé of all the things I have seen and thought to be ordinary. This may be a privilege of the age – hardly realising how very lucky we are to find the world so accessible with our cheap flights and international opportunities. But I think that along with our privilege comes the duty to appreciate what we get all the more. Let us listen to the wishful elders that keep exclaiming ‘Youngsters are so lucky these days!’. Let us find ourselves lucky, because we are getting to go further than most people ever have.

Have you ever been cavalier about going abroad? Or do you make a point to savour it whenever you do? Writing down what I’m up to always helps me realise how great my experience is, so I shall do more of that in the future.

Love,

M

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This New Year has already been full of trips for me, and each of them got me reflecting on what I was leaving behind. Planes add to the specialness and surreal character of a journey. There’s so much waiting around in an airport, each mindless step preparing you for the next until you’re flying higher than all the birds. Then, all you can do is think. The vastness of the sky echoes your frailness. It’s a lot to take in. So you go inward.

When I left Canada – when I left 2015 behind – I felt like I was in mourning. I had had such happy times there; finding my way in Toronto, making friends I didn’t expect to meet, exploring New York City and spending some quality time with my sister. The past few months had been filled to the brim with joy and excitement. I had been a version of myself that was way cooler than any other me I had witnessed myself being before. I had been so happy there. Half the time, I found myself examining what my life consisted of as if it were someone else’s. It was all so strangely familiar yet radically different – and better – than what things had been like for me up to that point.

It is strange, too, because I didn’t record much of all the great things that happened to me last year. I didn’t bring my camera with me most of the time, nor did I even jot down notes of what I had been up to. Everything felt so intense and real that I didn’t want to risk turning it into a story… at least not right away. At the time, it all needed to just be my life; unedited, unrecorded – and most of it eventually forgotten. I preferred to relish in the good vibes instead of trying to reduce them to something that didn’t feel quite right.

Things were simply too good.

It’ll be hard to top 2015… but I sure as hell am going to try.

What is your best memory from 2015?

Love,

M

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Hello, nice to meet you. If we were meeting in France, we would likely kiss each other’s cheeks 2 to 4 times (boy, it sounds strange when you put it that way). If we were meeting in the Netherlands, we would likely say “aangenaam” and exchange a firm but friendly handshake. If we were meeting in Canada, we would probably go for an informal hi from across the room.

But instead, we are meeting here. On the Internet. (Stranger danger!). So, hey. Who are you?

Me? My name is Marianne. I was born and raised in France. A couple of years ago I moved to the Netherlands for my studies and I recently came back from a semester abroad in Canada. So multiculturalism is kind of my thing, if I do say so myself. I also love writing but don’t do a lot of it… so this blog is a way to encourage myself to write more; it serves as a kick in my metaphorical butt, in a sense.

What can you expect to read about?

I will be writing about moments, pieces of life that I picked up somewhere. (That can be about anything from living abroad to doing the dishes). I will also be writing about travel, books, and things I’ve been learning. There is also more to come as I have great ambitions for this blog!

Feel free to have a look around and let me know what you think.

Love,

M

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